Seek, and Ye Shall Find
How to find your limiting beliefs
A couple of months back, I began talking here bout just how ugly we have all become over the past two years. I then went on to state that it was our limiting beliefs that are making us this way. Today, I want to dive into how we discover our own limiting beliefs. I am aiming to give you practical steps to figuring that out.
One of the first things we need to do is admit that our perspective is not the only perspective. For many of us, this might even be the belief that is limiting us. We tend to see the world our own way and assume that others see the world our way or that they should be seeing it our way.
This is really the hardest step in the process. None of us like to admit that we might be wrong or not have the whole story. Think of the way that people responded to the 2020 election. There is no way it could have turned out the way it did because “I did not vote for him! And no one around me voted for him! Clearly, this was fraud!”
This idea made people do some terrible things to good people.
Just because you believe something, that does not mean that it is the right thing or the only way to view things. And this is step one in finding our limiting beliefs.
Once you have established within yourself that there are other perspectives out there that might be right, you can begin step two: listen to other voices. If your beliefs or views are not the only right ones, that means that someone else might be right about the world. Give those voices a chance.
I remember when I was going through my divorce. I had separated from my wife, was living with a lesbian couple, and dating an agnostic. Some of my religious friends had flat out asked me what I had done wrong to make the situation turn out the way that it did. So I was feeling rather lost and desperately and actively looking for answers about why things had turned out as they did.
During this time, Facebook’s algorithm showed me an ad for a free copy of Brendon Burchard’s book The Motivation Manifesto. The agnostic I was dating at the time was a psychology major, and we had had conversations about how positive psychology was junk psychology. And here I was filling out the form to get a free copy of this book that is the epitome of pop psychology and self-help.
The book turned out to be life-changing for me. It pointed me in a direction. I have read it multiple times since I got it and I come back to it on a regular basis. But had I never come to a place where I was willing to listen to voices outside of my own tradition, I never would have filled out that form.
Listen to those voices.
This sounds easy, and maybe for some of us, it is. But for others, these are the hardest things. But these are the vital first steps to unlocking those doors that are hiding our limiting beliefs.